"Hi Sandman, My topic concerns that of 'badboy'. In 2013, I graduated with a politics degree in the France from a quite reputable university. I came from quite a poor/rough urban background so the girls always saw me as the bad boy and that helped my dating and sex life. Since then I have worked a good job and am currently studying for a masters degree at one of the best institutions in Europe. As a result of my 'exciting' background (as it has been labelled by girls), an athletic look and good prospects, I am quite assertive and good with girls. In your terminology, I imagine that I would be regarded as an alpha male - although not the bum kind. I notice that girls can be intimidated when messing around with me and so quite accommodating of my interest in other girls! It is usually sex without a relationship. More interestingly are those girls that already have a partner (specifically where he is a beta provider), they have a tendency to want to hang around and go out with me in a way that I think no girlfriend should. This may sound like a luxury problem but it is affecting my
ability to trust women in general. Moreover, a girl with a boyfriend will sometimes hang out with me even invite me to their house but still keep their boyfriend in reserve. Despite their preference for me over their boyfriend, it seems that they are opposed to foregoing what they have with him. I think it is because they know I have other options whereas he most certainly doesn't. I am prompted to ask about this dynamic because, recently, a girl who demonstrated a lot of interest (and who I was very attracted to) has recently got in touch. She had a boyfriend at the time of us meeting and so it never went far (although he was never discussed at all) - admittedly, I didn't pursue as hard as I should have and she told me we should stop talking when I questioned the health of their relationship. Now (having not spoken for over a year) she seems desperate to meet and has made it clear that she is single. I could meet her but it doesn't sit right with me. I haven't had feelings as strong as the ones I had for her before or since. I wonder if it is worth the bother? I should mention that she is as attractive as they come (to my mind) and so even a causal thing would be worth pursuing. If this is something that you would be prepared to address in a YouTube video then please do so. As such, I would like your advice for the self-aware 'alpha' who wants to pursue relationships with girls but on his own terms. Foregoing female attention is simply not viable or desirable for me. I am still keen to find a girl with whom I can grow (though am not dependent on). It seems my potential to find another attractive girl puts them off committing to me. Although I am open to notion that there is more at play.
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1. stokkete - Cool Attractive Man In Leather Jacket
2. Kaspars Grinvalds - Surprised woman caught her man cheating
3. Flynt - Naughty devil schoolboy with lines written on a blackboard reading I will try harder in class and devils horns, tail and pitchfork.
4. stokkete - Aggressive bad boy posing and staring at camera ** Note: Shallow depth of field
5. Dean Drobot - Excited fitness man shouting at camera over gray background
6. samotrebizan - Dangerous Man With A Gun
7. olly2 - Screaming man
8. Kasia Bialasiewicz - Couple Argue Over Car Smoking
9. stokkete - Confident Fashionable Man With Cigar
10. studiostoks - Motorcyclist rider biker man